The shift from dating to hooking up in college
If that doesn't happen in real-life, traditional dating doesn't give the woman much recourse.
This study will no doubt be cited as proof of the "natural" or "innate" differences between men and women.
" Notice the operative assumptions: That hooking up and dating are mutually exclusive; and that college intimacy is a zero-sum game that pits one gender against the other.
The paper opens with a startling claim, namely that "hooking up has replaced dating" on college campuses.
46.67% of women and 45.07% of men said they preferred traditional dating to hooking up in general.
41.33% of women said they preferred traditional dating compared to 19.72% of men.
Before we get misty eyed about how great traditional dating is for women, let's remember the scenarios the women were asked to imagine: The guy they're interested in will either take them out or hook up with them. A real-life traditional dating system also involves a lot of sitting around, waiting for the guy you like to ask you out.
On a traditional date, the guy pays for everything and takes all the risk of rejection.
According to the traditional narrative, women are supposed to like relationships and men are supposed to like anonymous sexual conquests.
Psychologists know that people tend overstate preferences they believe to be socially desirable and understate preferences they think will make them look bad--even on anonymous questionnaires.
Interestingly, despite some differences in stated preferences, men and women reported engaging equal numbers of first dates and hookups.
There's a lot of faux concern among conservatives that sexual freedom hurts women by killing chivalry.