Gay woman dating
I had put her through my coming out, my relationships, and the apparent certainty that we would never be together.She said “I love you”, and without hesitating, I said it back.In one case, a friend of mine thought about what I'd said, then told me that she'd just defaulted to calling herself straight, even though it didn't suit her all the time.It occurred to me that perhaps that was why my news had been received so well – I had friends who understood that a label doesn't have to be restrictive, that even though people default to a label, it doesn't mean the umbrella term matches up perfectly with who someone is.I've known people in my situation who started identifying as bi.Some kept their old label; for example, singer Tom Robinson identifies as "a gay man who happens to be in love with a woman".I was lucky enough to have a lot of supportive people around me, but many of them still needed sitting down and talking to before they adjusted to the fact that I was now with a woman after years of identifying as gay.
I wondered why it was that I spoke to her more than my boyfriends, but left my confusion to simmer for years as I drifted through school.
I had been an openly gay man for six years when I fell in love with a woman I'd known since I was 13.
Growing up on the Isle of Wight, we bonded over adolescent heartbreak, which happened to me more than once as I got to know the boys in our year.
A lot of people seem to instinctively get that identities come in all different shapes and sizes, and I was lucky to find so many people who were supportive and understanding. Nobody can predict how any one person will react to the news that you're queer and dating someone who presents as "the opposite sex".
A lot of people still see gender and sexuality through opposites: They believe that man is the opposite of woman, and straight is the opposite of gay.